Love is beautiful, and we know that there is nothing more sure in this world than a parent's love for their child. But as a parent, sometimes when your relationship with your kids feels rocky, or you doubt that they realize just how much you care for them.
Dr. Gary Chapman, a marriage therapist, developed the theory of Love Languages, which comes down to the fact that everyone receives love differently. What is true for romantic love in marriage is also true for our love for our children. Knowing your child’s love language can make all the difference in your relationship with them.
We’ve made a list of ways to show your child you love them according to their love language.
Words of Affirmation
Saying loving things or “I Love you” often
Offering praise when they do something well
A special note in their lunchbox
Having a nickname for them that only you use
Sitting near or beside them when doing an activity or at Mass
Lots of hugs and kisses
Making up a handshake
Acts of Service
Making their favorite dinner or treat
Carrying them to bed
Doing a chore for them that they normally do
Helping them with their homework
Choosing small, inexpensive tokens, thoughtful gifts, or homemade presents.
Framing a special photograph of the child doing something they love
Buying a new shirt that captures their personality
Setting a goal and rewarding them with a thoughtful gift
Setting aside time to listen to your child fill you in about their day and feelings
Drawing or journaling together
Allowing your child to help you around the house
Making eye contact with your child when they tell you something
Knowing how to connect and make your child feel loved keeps your relationship strong and home life smooth. Try these ideas and see how they better connect you to your child!